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7 Signs You're Giving Away Your Power

Updated: Nov 25, 2023

By Jenny Peterson

If I had to tell you the one common factor among all of those that have chronic conditions, it would be that they’re giving away their power.

The truth is that they don’t even know it. You probably are doing it as well and don’t know it.

Why are we so unaware of this? Because we are programmed to do it.

And whether you want to heal a chronic condition or change your career or relationships, you need this one thing that you were born with, inner power.

Today I will discuss what inner power is and the 7 signs that you are giving it away so you can start making positive changes in your life and health.


Let's start with defining what inner power is.

Developing more inner power can make you feel more confident and capable in all areas of your life.


We are all born with inner power, but its importance is often never discussed.

Think back to when you were a child. Did your parents or caregivers ever sit you down and talk to you about your inner power? This isn’t a talk like, “you can do it buddy.” Rather it's a talk like “you always have a choice in any situation, the power to create your life starts with you and how you respond to life.”

If you had a talk like this from your parents, that’s great and it should be applauded! But for a majority of us, we never got that talk. In fact, a majority of us were raised in environments where our inner power didn’t matter or it was viewed as being disrespectful or egotistic.

Children try to show their inner power as they develop often only to get it stomped on or programmed to use it in a negative way.

Whether you realize it or not, you’re always using your inner power. It's either being used for the good or bad.

For example, you unconsciously might be using your inner power to strengthen your limited beliefs about your healing. That is using your inner power in the negative. The only reason those beliefs about your healing feel true is because you are using your inner power to believe that. If you used your inner power to believe you CAN heal, that is a healthy way of using it.

For many people, they don’t realize that they are giving their power away. You can attribute this to the “programming” they got from their environment as a child and now it just feels normal as an adult.

Giving away your power robs you of mental strength and it greatly affects your healing. In fact, the ONLY way to heal is to step into your power. Because if you think of it, all conflicts are based on not listening or stepping into your power.

It could be your power to see the situation in a different way, your power to speak up, your power to set boundaries or accepting yourself as you are.

Your symptoms are your inner compass telling you where you need to step into your power. This is why students of the MBR program are transformed into 2.0 versions of themselves after they do this work. We teach them how to step into their power.

Recognizing those areas of your life where you give away your power is the first step in taking it back.

So, here are 7 signs you are giving your power away when it comes to your healing.

1. Giving power to the labels that you are given.

Before I started doing this work, I gave so much power to my labels.

In fact, I walked around pretty much telling myself and the world that I had them. They were my reason for my bad days, why my life sucked, and why I couldn’t do certain things.

I still remember being at the grocery store and the cashier asked me how my day was going and I started crying and said “it's horrible, I have Lyme disease!”

Yes my friends, I was once in that place.

Whether you’re told that you have an auto-immune disease (Lyme disease, IBS, eczema, etc.), you have a choice of the meaning and power that you give these. When it comes to this work, the labels really are not needed, your symptoms tell us everything.

Although the label feels like you now have answers, it still leaves you in a place to find a solution, which is often outside of ourselves.

When you take away the label and instead focus on your symptoms, you can use your inner power to listen to what they have to say and take action to resolve it.

2. Complaining

Did you know that you give your power away every time you negatively react to someone or something?

Complaining creates this pathway in the brain that attracts more complaining. Have you ever met someone who was a complainer? They are really good at it because they have done it over and over again. That pathway in the brain is strong!

When we complain we give power to the situations that are happening in our life. Complaining is a waste of time. Commit to focusing on solutions instead. This is where you can put your inner power to use!

3. You have anxiety

Everywhere you look, it seems like everyone has got some type of anxiety and the world seems to have all kinds of solutions for it. Meds to numb it, gut remedies, cold showers, affirmations, vitamins, heavy blankets, mold detoxing, etc.

Again, the world has complicated the shit out of it and I’m here to keep it simple.

Anxiety is about giving away your inner power. Your inner power to create your own safety.

Seeing that our kids, adults, and even pets are experiencing anxiety, is a big message that tells us something much deeper. It tells us that generations, our society, our teachers, etc are not passing on the ability to create safety within ourselves. People don’t know what inner power is because it's not being taught. Instead, fear is.

When we have anxiety, we let fear win. We think that having fear will help us feel safe but instead it makes us feel out of control. We think all the time, never are in the moment, and act upon things that we create in our minds out of fear of what might happen.

Anxiety is worshiping fear. It's putting fear on a pedestal rather than your own inner power, because you can’t have both.

4. Blaming mold, food, toxins, people, situations, etc. for your symptoms or how you feel.

We have been conditioned to believe that something outside of ourselves causes us to have symptoms. When we blame these outside things we give power to something outside of us to create our destiny.

Blaming is a failure to recognize who is doing the choosing in your life. Therefore, it indicates a split-off from your inner self. No one can make you feel a certain way either, everything you feel is yours.

When we blame things outside of ourselves for how we feel or our symptoms, we position ourselves as victims.

Life as a victim is to live within the limited belief system that everything in our outer world is happening to us. If your energy is invested in this reality, you freely give away your power to someone or something outside of you.

You can blame your parents for the “trauma” they caused.

You can blame the doctors for giving you the medication.

You can blame your illness for the life that you have.

You can blame the bullies from high school for your low self-esteem.

But by doing this you are giving away YOUR power.

With this victim mindset, the power is outside of us. We give “them” the power to “make us” feel or do something. No person, place, or thing can make you feel a certain way. Only you have the power to determine how you will react to the things that happen around you.

As a creator, you start to witness events in your external life that came out of your internal world of thoughts and feelings, you begin to move into oneness. Now you have evidence that the thought or emotion produced the effect in your outer world. This is the beginning of moving out of the victim consciousness into the creator consciousness.

5. People Pleasing

The most common way people give their power away is hiding who they are and what they want.

When we do things because it makes someone else feel a certain way, we give away our inner power. The power then lies in their response and how they make you feel rather than in your choice.

Somewhere along the way in childhood, you learned that your voice and choices didn’t matter and/or there were consequences to not pleasing someone else. This then follows us into adulthood.

Sadly, so many adults are walking around with this programming from childhood. They are still doing things because their parents want them to, they are not saying something because they are in fear of what others might feel.

Our body does not lie when we are going against ourselves. People pleasing is a very common pattern I see that is at the core of many chronic symptoms.

6. You don’t have healthy boundaries

Is it hard for you to say no or assert yourself? Do you frequently feel mistreated or resentful? Do you feel over-scheduled, busy, and tired? These are all signs of a lack of boundaries.

Boundaries serve as limits, telling others how we want to be treated and what we are each responsible for. They create a separation between you and others so you can maintain your individuality and values.

Most of us were not taught boundaries. In fact many of our parents abused boundaries that we tried to set or gave us harsh consequences if we tried. Or our parents simply never demonstrated what they were because they didn’t know what they were either. You will often see this abuse of or lack of boundaries passed down generationally.

A lack of boundaries is one of the biggest areas that we give our power away. Giving in to guilt trips, letting people waste your time, and refusing to speak up for yourself gives people power over you.

Rather than blame others for forcing you to do something, recognize that you're always in charge, use your inner power to protect you and your mental, physical and emotional space.

7. Searching outside yourself for solutions.

Everywhere you look you’re told that the answer is outside of you. There is a pill for this, a diet or detox for that. Imagine if there were commercials that said, “got IBS?, have you considered looking inward at what is making you angry?" I can laugh knowing that this will never happen, but lets really think about how things would be different if we did?

We are programmed to go outside ourselves for solutions. So naturally when we start having chronic conditions that is where we go. But this approach also gives your power away. It puts power into external fixes, which will only take you so far.

Awareness is the solution that will help you take back your power. Step into being the observer of you. Because you are the remedy you’ve been searching for. When you are aware of what is going on within, you no longer search outside of you for the solution.

Ok, lets review the 7 signs that you are giving your power away…..

  1. Giving power to the labels.

  2. Complaining

  3. You have anxiety

  4. Blaming things outside of you for your symptoms

  5. People pleasing

  6. You don’t have healthy boundaries

  7. Searching outside yourself for solutions.


Pause for a moment and notice how you feel. Tune into your body if that helps to ground you. How do you feel in response to the list I just gave? If you feel a sense of physical discomfort or strong emotions arising, it’s likely that this list has triggered you.

Being triggered here is a good thing because it is a clear sign that you need to develop a stronger sense of power. It's your body telling you that these are the areas you need to work on. Listen to your inner compass.


To access your inner power, realize that you’re powerful. It’s nothing you have to develop – it’s a matter of exercising your power and being super mindful of how you use it.

You need to start with small baby steps. Don’t expect to do it all overnight. Listen to your symptoms, they will tell you what areas you need to step into your power.

Keep in mind that the reason you are in fear of or don’t feel like you know how to use your inner power is because of your subconscious patterns. When we neglect our inner power, we act out of our subconscious conditioning. We react to people and situations instead of thinking what the highest possible choice aligned with our inner truth was. It takes time to break free from this conditioning and honor the truth of who we are.

All we need to do is cultivate these powers through constant practice and application. The process isn’t easy because more than discipline, it requires commitment and focused intention.

This is why having a daily plan to help you work on stepping into your power is key to your success. All of the MBR programs and courses give the exact steps to cultivate these steps through constant practice and application.

You were born powerful. The only question is, what are you doing with that power? Are you giving it away to fears, illusions, limitations, excuses? Or do you embrace your inner power and use it to create your reality consciously and express your true self?

If you recognize areas in your life where you’ve been giving away your power, commit to taking it back today by requesting a custom healing plan.

With a custom healing plan you will know the exact steps you need to take back your power based on the symptoms your body is expressing.


We get it, you're desperate to have your illness be a thing of the past, not something that defines your days. But trying to heal WITHOUT a custom plan is costing you precious time, money and energy!

You are unique, your symptoms are connected to very specific patterns within your subconscious.

Without a plan unique to you, you will continue struggling and miss out on the life you deserve to be living! To help you get started on your long-lasting healing journey, we would love to provide you with a healing plan that is unique to you. Get your custom healing plan today!

You can also Download my free healing guide, “Why Can’t I Heal” where you will learn the 5 reasons that you haven't healed despite everything you've tried. These are the missing pieces to your healing and the key to resolving your symptoms for good.

Jenny Peterson is the founder and CEO of Mind Body Rewire (MBR). She teaches those that are overwhelmed with trying to heal chronic symptoms how to simplify their healing by focusing on just one place, the subconscious mind. Learn more about MBR here.

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